Hi, I am 25-year-old educated and professionally successful woman. While I have no grievances about my professional life, my personal life seems to be a mess. I have never met a man with whom I can share a serious relationship. My first boyfriend cheated on me, the second one broke up because he had to shift to another city and was not comfortable with a long-distance relationship. My third and present relationship seems to be heading the wrong path as well. My boyfriend has shifted to another country and does not message me. He seems disinterested and I think he would ask for a break up as well.
I feel depressed when I see all my friends happily dating and even getting married. I don't know where I go wrong in a relationship, or am I just unlucky? How should I deal with my emotions better?
Romantic relationship comprise of compatibility, deep fulfillment and understanding. Love is a very intense emotion known to the human being. Dating is a process in which you gradually determine whether the person is suitable for you to be a life partner or not. However, many times it's is challenging to determine whether a connection reflects temporary infatuation or true love.
I comprehend that you are professionally a successful woman. However, you feel that your personal life is a mess as you never met a man with whom you can share a serious relationship. It appears that you had two romantic relationships in past but they didn't work for a longer period. I understand that you are in relationship with someone presently and you feel that it is not heading toward the right path. You feel your boyfriend does not interact with you the usual way and you feel your boyfriend seems to be disinterested in the relationship. I understand it is a difficult situation for you and it can be challenging to be in a position where you are not sure where is your relationship heading.
Furthermore, when you see your friends in a happy relationship or getting married, you feel unlucky and sad. I get that it can be difficult situation, however, it is advised that we don't compare our life with others as they are dealing with their own challenges. I would suggest that first you start focusing on yourself and your life. Reflect on what exactly you want in your personal life.
Second, I appreciate your efforts that you put in your romantic relationships. Nevertheless, it is not helpful to compare your past romantic relationship with the present one. You can learn from your past mistakes and make sure you don't repeat them in your relationship. You can also see if you are repeating any pattern in selecting your partner which is creating similar situations for you. You can meet a counsellor to understand your emotional patterns better.
Last, I would recommend you work on your self-development and take time to understand yourself before committing to a relationship. Once you are more self-aware, you will be able to take better decisions.
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